Happy May! Did you know that May is International Masturbation Month? Yes, you read that correctly. There’s an entire month dedicated to sex with yourself! To celebrate, I’ve decided to use a different sex toy every day for the entire month of May. 31 days of masturbation, chronicled on my Instagram. As a CannaSexual upgrade, I’m also going to highlight the strain or product I’m pairing with each session (I almost always consume before I start solo sexy times).
The celebration was started in 1995 by adult retailer Good Vibrations in response to the forced resignation of then-Surgeon General Jocelyn Elders, for having the gall to suggest that the concept of masturbation should be include in sex ed curricula as a healthy alternative to riskier sexual behaviors. Just to be clear, she wasn’t suggesting that kids be taught how to masturbate, just that it be presented as a healthy and normal activity. The horror, right? I’m so grateful to Good Vibrations (GV) for creating this month-long solemnization of self love. GV is one of my favorite adult retailers for many reasons, but mainly because they have legendary sexologist (and one of my personal heroes) Dr. Carol Queen on staff. Dr. Queen was also one of the brains behind the Masturbate-a-Thon, a ménage à moi fundraiser, in 1999. “We know self-pleasure is a ground-level, indispensable part of so many people’s sexuality—it’s high time society honored it as such,” said Dr. Queen via text.
Here are my top tips for a fun and fruitful fap fest:
- Invest in your pleasure: buy yourself a high-quality sex toy made from non-porous materials such as silicone, borosilicate glass, metal, ABS plastic or treated wood. Porous materials like thermoplastic rubber (TPR), thermoplastic elastomer (TPE) and silicone elastomer blends (SEBs) cannot be sterilized, so they can easily harbor bacteria, mildew, or fungus between uses.
- Try new cannabis products to see how they work for your body: the best time to test out a new cannabis strain or product for sexy fun times is when you’re flying solo. This helps you isolate variables and see exactly how the product affects you, so when you’re with a partner you already know what to expect in terms of onset time, duration and effects.
- Make noise if possible: most of us were raised to experience self-pleasure in complete silence (especially if we shared a room with a sibling, or lived in a place with thin walls). It’s challenging to break out of that conditioning, but according to Dr. Justin Lehmiller, research has shown that vocalizing during sex promotes greater sexual satisfaction.
- Use lube! I cannot stress this enough. Lube is great for adults of all ages and genital configurations. Lube can be silicone, water-based, hybrid (a blend of silicone and water-based) or oil-based. If it’s oil-based, it’s not compatible with latex condoms, so keep that in mind even when flying solo (some folks put condoms on their porous toys to prevent bacteria from coming in contact with the toy). Lube makes everything feel better—try it!